Comments on: Friends #2… how someone does unto others… http://scoeyd.com/2008/10/17/friends-2-how-someone-does-unto-others/ just a boy trying to figure it out on the fly... Wed, 01 Feb 2012 04:43:29 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Jason http://scoeyd.com/2008/10/17/friends-2-how-someone-does-unto-others/comment-page-1/#comment-1938 Jason Mon, 20 Oct 2008 19:33:00 +0000 http://scoeyd.com/2008/10/17/friends-2-how-someone-does-unto-others/#comment-1938 very good.<br/><br/>may i add that "jonadabs" are usually doing what they know (have been treated like). while i'm aware of a jonadabs when they come, i also have compassion and hope that they will be emotionally healed and mind renewed. friendship and what i share will be closely monitored with jonadabs. very good.

may i add that “jonadabs” are usually doing what they know (have been treated like). while i’m aware of a jonadabs when they come, i also have compassion and hope that they will be emotionally healed and mind renewed. friendship and what i share will be closely monitored with jonadabs.

]]> By: jami http://scoeyd.com/2008/10/17/friends-2-how-someone-does-unto-others/comment-page-1/#comment-1937 jami Sun, 19 Oct 2008 20:42:00 +0000 http://scoeyd.com/2008/10/17/friends-2-how-someone-does-unto-others/#comment-1937 good stuff. good stuff.

]]> By: scoey-d http://scoeyd.com/2008/10/17/friends-2-how-someone-does-unto-others/comment-page-1/#comment-1934 scoey-d Sat, 18 Oct 2008 01:31:00 +0000 http://scoeyd.com/2008/10/17/friends-2-how-someone-does-unto-others/#comment-1934 erica - good questions - why are you/why I am I drawn to certain people/types of people? Personality, common interests, charisma, insecurity, desire to rescue, people pleasing, thinking somewhere in our heart of hearts that if I am friends with <i>THAT</i> person, other people will think I'm cool, there's a connection, or its a mystery.<br/><br/>How do I not become suspicious after being burned 1x? Grace. Truth. And checking to see if the being burned was a part of the failure & unmet expectations of the human condition or if its a 'user/abuser' pattern of behavior. Multiple times? I check to see if I'm carrying more than my part of the relationship & being a doormat, or a magnet for poor treatment. Self-examination: am I enabling the behavior/burnage? Making excuses for what they're doing? <br/><br/>The book "Love Is A Choice" is pretty good on the topic of relationships & would be a fun read if you're asking these questions...<br/><br/>Laura - I know what you mean - about the running away when the red flags show up. For me, I want to know that I'm not attracting Jonadabs because of my need to please people, to hear 'praise & adulation' from others, or some other stinkiness... erica – good questions – why are you/why I am I drawn to certain people/types of people? Personality, common interests, charisma, insecurity, desire to rescue, people pleasing, thinking somewhere in our heart of hearts that if I am friends with THAT person, other people will think I'm cool, there's a connection, or its a mystery.

How do I not become suspicious after being burned 1x? Grace. Truth. And checking to see if the being burned was a part of the failure & unmet expectations of the human condition or if its a 'user/abuser' pattern of behavior. Multiple times? I check to see if I'm carrying more than my part of the relationship & being a doormat, or a magnet for poor treatment. Self-examination: am I enabling the behavior/burnage? Making excuses for what they're doing?

The book "Love Is A Choice" is pretty good on the topic of relationships & would be a fun read if you're asking these questions…

Laura – I know what you mean – about the running away when the red flags show up. For me, I want to know that I'm not attracting Jonadabs because of my need to please people, to hear 'praise & adulation' from others, or some other stinkiness…

]]> By: laura http://scoeyd.com/2008/10/17/friends-2-how-someone-does-unto-others/comment-page-1/#comment-1932 laura Sat, 18 Oct 2008 00:05:00 +0000 http://scoeyd.com/2008/10/17/friends-2-how-someone-does-unto-others/#comment-1932 good stuff... I have had many Jonadabs in my life, which has lead to some (probably unhealthy) paranoia regarding friendship... but I can now definitely spot them coming a mile a way. The red flags go up, and I run the other way:) good stuff… I have had many Jonadabs in my life, which has lead to some (probably unhealthy) paranoia regarding friendship… but I can now definitely spot them coming a mile a way. The red flags go up, and I run the other way:)

]]> By: Erica http://scoeyd.com/2008/10/17/friends-2-how-someone-does-unto-others/comment-page-1/#comment-1931 Erica Fri, 17 Oct 2008 21:44:00 +0000 http://scoeyd.com/2008/10/17/friends-2-how-someone-does-unto-others/#comment-1931 one more thing I wanted to add...after being burned several times or even just once with a friend, how do you not become suspicious that anyone who wants to be your friend is a Jonadab...? one more thing I wanted to add…after being burned several times or even just once with a friend, how do you not become suspicious that anyone who wants to be your friend is a Jonadab…?

]]> By: Erica http://scoeyd.com/2008/10/17/friends-2-how-someone-does-unto-others/comment-page-1/#comment-1930 Erica Fri, 17 Oct 2008 21:05:00 +0000 http://scoeyd.com/2008/10/17/friends-2-how-someone-does-unto-others/#comment-1930 I had never heard of Jonadab before...This makes me examine my internal motives...why am I drawn towards certain people? I had never heard of Jonadab before…This makes me examine my internal motives…why am I drawn towards certain people?

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